Uncle Agony dear,
I am so in love with my boyfriend and I believe he also feels the same. He promised to leave his wife and settle with me and I will wait for him for as long as it takes. Please don’t judge me. We were very good friends that we used to talk to each about our relationship problems until we just found ourselves falling in love with each other. I left my boyfriend for him but he’s still in the process of leaving his wife. It’s harder for him and I understand because he has been with her for a long time and they have two kids together. The problem is that he spends more time with his family and less time with me. If he’s going to leave them anyway, shouldn’t he be spending more time with me to build our relationship? What should I do?
Unfortunately, most men are like that. They tend to favour their families over their mistresses. The bastards. What they don’t realize is that without their mistresses, er, well, nothing changes but the point is the mistresses are also important somehow. Google it if you don’t believe me.
Without people like you, economies would collapse, countries would go to war and people would die of hunger and diseases. True story. You need to make him realize that without you, he will be completely devastated. He will keep his family, his kids will grow up to love him and so many more awful things will happen to him.
But what do you need him for anyway? You can build the relationship without him. And if building it alone becomes so overwhelming, you can always get a loan from the bank.